As the CEO of Tripology.com, I recommend daily that people should travel with their children. I also recommend traveling to “kid-friendly” resorts. The challenge is getting there. If you’re going to fly, you are forced to take public planes unless you can afford a private jet or unless you’re driving. So, until they put soundproof “quiet zones” on planes, people are going to have to deal with kids making noise on planes.
Why am I so passionate? After years of complaining about kids on planes, I now find myself traveling with my own little ones; a two-year old and a seven month. My daughter has been flying since she was three months old and she’s normally the perfect traveler. We pick flights that match her sleep times and we avoid long or connecting flights. But, on a recent trip to Chicago to visit family (normally a 90 minute flight), our flight was delayed four hours due to weather. Four hours! Worse yet, we didn’t learn of the delay until AFTER we boarded. Had we known beforehand, we clearly would’ve flown another day.
We sat on the runway for 90 minutes. We circled in the air for another 90 minutes and add to this the normal flight time and top it off with some turbulence….voila; my daughter had a melt-down and this caused my son to start crying. We tried everything. All I could do was apologize to my surrounding seat-mates. If i could have bought each of them a pair of noise-cancelling headphones, I would have. I have to say though; some of the glares being sent in my direction were downright obnoxious. It was as if I was pinching them to make them louder. Yes, that’s it. I love it when my children melts down, cry and screams, especially when they’re synchronized.
I’ve been flying for business for more than 20 years. I’ve been listening to crying kids for two decades. I’ve sat, in my seat, while the kid behind me repeatedly kicked my seat even though his mother said to him “Now Freddie, don’t kick the nice man’s seat” a thousand times. She forgot to say “because he looks like he’s about to go postal”. So, after all these years, it was now my turn. I’m sorry. I did everything I could. I did not plan on being locked in a plane for an additional four hours. (I had enough diapers, toys and food, but didn’t plan on such along journey for the kids.)
Please note we are not those parents whose kids do what they want without punishment. Parents who ignore their kids while they run amok and cause trouble really bother me because they give responsible parents (and kids) a bad rap.
Sometimes however, a child just screams on a plane. It might be because of popping ears or some other ailment. We’re kind, caring, responsible, kid-loving adults and I want my children to see the world with me as they grow up. I’m not going to keep them in the house until they can drive themselves to the airport. I too remember being on planes all the time as a privileged (some would say spoiled) child. If I didn’t behave though, my mother and father’s wrath would come down upon me. My mother would politely ask me to join her in the ladies room for a quick discussion where I’d be read the riot act. “Sweetheart, come with me, I would like to speak with you.” “Thanks Mom, but I’m fine here” wasn’t an option. My father need only squint in my direction to remind me of the last time I misbehaved. Don’t get me wrong, my parents showed me love every day… as long as I behaved. They never hit me, though my father threatened me with his belt regularly. When a big guy waves a belt at you, you behave.
My parents are now doting, loving grandparents who couldn’t discipline a grandchild to save their lives. Somehow they got soft as they aged.
As I started researching for this post, I found a great article by The New York Times’ Frugal Traveler. I loved the article and encourage you to read it if you’re traveling with children. But wait. Want to know how others feel about parents who take their children with them on airplanes? Check out the reader comments to the article. Wow! I always knew there were some very passionate child-haters out there, but the tone in some of the responses is amazing. String up those little noise makers!
Happy travels.
Here’s the article: http://tinyurl.com/dzg2t4